I come to you with sadness in my heart today. Yesterday, a close friend of my family made her transition after a long struggle with cancer. She is a beloved daughter, sister, mother, aunt, friend and hairdresser extraordinaire who always had a bright smile and kind words for everyone she met. Yes, I say IS because although her physical vessel may have expired, her true essence, her soul, the energy that animated her body is eternal. She still IS. She now exists in a different form.
1 a : dynamic quality //narrative energy; b : the capacity of acting or being active //intellectual energy; c : a usually positive spiritual force //the energy flowing through all people
2 : vigorous exertion of power : effort //investing time and energy
3 : a fundamental entity of nature that is transferred between parts of a system in the production of physical change within the system and usually regarded as the capacity for doing work
4 : usable power (such as heat or electricity); also : the resources for producing such power
In physics, the law of conservation of energy states that the total energy of an isolated system remains constant, it is said to be conserved over time. This law means that energy can neither be created nor destroyed; rather, it can only be transformed or transferred from one form to another. Our world is an isolated system. It’s amazing how science confirms what spiritual traditions have taught for centuries.
I believe that her soul is now back “home” or in “heaven.” It is free of the physical body and it’s constraints. She is now able to be anywhere and everywhere and experience true unconditional love. So while I grieve and miss her physical presence, I am also rejoicing in her homegoing as it signifies the end of her struggles and suffering. She has awakened to her true nature: the energy of Love itself.
Mel’s Two Cents: When dealing with grief, I rely heavily on my faith and beliefs. I meditate on encouraging and comforting scriptures that remind me of the truth of who I am, and I trust that my departed loved one and I will be together again. I recommend you cry as much you need to. Let others comfort you. Allow yourself to melt into the strong arms of those who love you and grieve with you. Remember all the good times, and experience those joys all over again. Be easy on yourself, grief is a normal process, allow it to take as long as it takes – do not force yourself to “get over it” quickly. Take excellent self-care and try to do things that make you feel good instead of allowing anger or resentment to overtake you. Life goes on and is still beautiful, your departed loved one wants you to continue to live the best life possible.
I leave you with my favorite scripture that always encourages me to be my best self and reminds me of my true identity.
May the peace which surpasses all understanding be with you always my friends.
Until next time.
1 Corinthians 13 New International Version (NIV)
13 If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. 3 If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 12 For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
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