Sometimes it can feel as if the Universe is against us, as if we can’t catch a good break no matter what we do, and because what’s happening doesn’t seem to make sense we start fault finding – someone else has to be to blame for our misfortune.
1 : to find fault with
2 a : to hold responsible; b : to place responsibility for
3 : an expression of disapproval or reproach
1 a : having a body part and especially a limb so disabled as to impair freedom of movement; b : marked by stiffness and soreness
2 : lacking needful or desirable substance : weak, ineffectual
3 slang : not being in the know
BUT… if we’re honest with ourselves, we can see how our choices and actions led us to the difficult circumstance. Fear, desperation, insecurity and impatience can lead us to do things that are not in our best interest. In hindsight we often see how there was a niggling feeling, an uneasiness, a knowing that doing “this” would not end well but we let the voice of fear bully us anyway. Reminds me of Job 3:25 “What I feared has come upon me; what I dreaded has happened to me.”
Fret not my friends, all is not lost. Use this experience as an opportunity to learn more about yourself and what drives you into situations like “this.” Are you seeking approval? Is it what you were taught to do? Did you feel cornered and like you had no other choice? Were you emotionally triggered? Did you feel powerless and unworthy?
Mel’s Two Cents: Remember: what you focus on expands so choose to focus on what you want, and what makes you feel peace and joy. As you invest in getting to know yourself better, you will learn why you act as you do and then feel empowered to make different/better choices for yourself. And then you can happily blame yourself for how awesome your life has become :)
Until next time.
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