Last week we talked about asking questions and I’d like to expound on this a bit. Questions are great because they give our mind permission to seek answers and alert us to anything related to the question. This is why soon after posing a question we start to notice information that may be helpful or the answer simply appears or occurs to us.
We are better off following the example of little children by remaining curious and asking questions. I wondered “why do we get so annoyed when children ask questions incessantly?” The answer I got is that we become annoyed because we hate to admit that we don’t know everything. Who said that being an adult means that we should know everything? We all know it’s impossible for one person to know everything so why do we like to pretend like we are supposed to? I’ve learned admitting that “I don’t know” is a place of power. In this place, I am curious, open and willing to learn something new. In this place, I am fascinated and enjoy being amazed and surprised. In this place, it is easier to make friends and connect with people who are different than me. In this place, I am free from the pressure of pretense and falsehood. In this place, I can simply be me.
Asking Questions – The Remix
This time I invite you to focus on existential questions. Take time to really get to know yourself. Examine your life a little. I’ve found that without meaning to, we often wind up living a life that was planned out for us or suggested to us – not the life we actually wanted. One day we wake up feeling sick, tired, frustrated or completely lost wondering “how the heck did I get here?”
- Who am I?
- What am I here to do?
- What do I want? What do I really, really want?
- What would make me happy?
- What would it take for me to be at peace?
Mel’s Two Cents: Ask your questions often, write them down, use them as a meditation mantra. Do not become attached or obsessed with an immediate or specific answer. Go about your daily routine being more aware in the present moment. Practice contemplating what’s around you with childlike curiosity.
- Is this item really useful?
- How do I feel about how I currently spend my time?
- Is this fun?
- What would I rather be doing?
- How can it be better than this?
- Am I having fun yet?
Your mind will be on a mission to solve the mystery. It will conjure up memories, ideas and visions. Write down whatever comes to you as they are clues to who you really are, what you really want and your path to peace, joy and success.
Don’t be surprised if suppressed memories and strong feelings come up, this is normal. Allow yourself to be with these feelings, acknowledge them, let them pass through you and be gentle and forgiving with yourself. Then promise yourself that you will no longer mistreat or neglect yourself. Promise that you will love and accept yourself just as you are right now. Promise that you will put yourself first. Promise that you will have more peace and joy in your life. Promise to be more kind to yourself and others. Promise to be the person you said you would be when you were a kid, before you was brainwashed by your family and society. Promise to be YOU, and only YOU, so help you God!
Happy self-discovery friends!
Until next time.
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