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Practice speaking and living your truth

Hello Friends, We are taught from a very young age to hide our true feelings - be nice, be polite, don't cry, it's not OK to show anger, etc. We walk around wearing masks all the time, afraid to be authentic, afraid of rejection or retaliation, afraid to be an outcast. It's not that we're out there lying, we're simply hiding, or holding back, our true feelings and desires. Then we wonder why we're not happy and not getting what we really want. As I was contemplating this, I decided to try something different: to speak and live my truth [...]

2019-10-30T16:02:38+00:00 Uncategorized|4 Comments

Embracing and sharing your fabulousness

Hello Friends, I don't have anything really insightful or profound to share today, just a friendly public service announcement: I am fabulous and so are you! That's right I said that and I mean it! We are unique individuals with unique talents. These talents do not have to coincide with work or career, although for some it does. It can be a hobby or a helpful habit. It's that thing you do that people always come to you for advice about, or to fix for them, or because they admire you and want to learn from you. It's the thing [...]

2019-10-23T18:55:16+00:00 Uncategorized|1 Comment

Embracing stillness and silence

Hello Friends, We're so busy these days juggling home, family, friends, careers, and unforeseen events a.k.a. WTF moments, that we often find ourselves reaching for something to calm us down, give us a boost of energy or help us get some clarity. The quickest and healthiest way I've found is to be still and get quiet for a few minutes at a time throughout the day. I simply find a spot where I can be alone, close my eyes, take some deep breaths and go to my happy place. Amazingly, I quickly feel calmer, my mind is clearer and I [...]

2019-10-16T15:38:32+00:00 Uncategorized|3 Comments

Searching for meaning in life

Hello Friends, What is the meaning of life? We often ask ourselves, searching for an answer that will make everything crystal clear and provide distinct direction. What I have come to know for myself, and sometimes forget due to challenging circumstances and have to rediscover all over again, is that there is no one particular meaning to life. Life is what we choose to make it. Our individual, unique lives are colored by our ideas, beliefs and experiences. That's right, the onus always falls on us. We are the ones who assign meaning to our life by what we think [...]

2019-10-02T18:25:28+00:00 Uncategorized|1 Comment

Dare to heal yourself

Hello Friends, A thought came to me during my meditation: if hurt people hurt people then healed people help heal people. So, how do we heal ourselves? It's simple but not always easy: Let IT go! What is IT? IT is anything - idea, belief, person, place, thing, story or situation - that disturbs your peace and does not serve your highest good. Yep, anything that does not increase your peace and joy quotient. Mel's Two Cents: Change your mind about IT. Entertain new ideas, beliefs, habits or people that add to or increase your peace and joy. When you [...]

2019-09-25T17:09:27+00:00 Uncategorized|1 Comment

Managing the attack of the BLAHS

Hello Friends, So the WTF?! moment has passed and you've got a handle on circumstances and your strong emotions, and yet... things still don't seem to feel quite right or make sense. You may be asking yourself: what's next? why is nothing happening? nothing seems to be working? is this really my life right now? You may feel like you're in this dark, nebulous limbo land - it's the dreaded BLAHS - UGH! blah 1 or less commonly blah-blah : silly or pretentious chatter or nonsense 2 blahs plural : a feeling of boredom, lethargy, or general dissatisfaction Fret not [...]

2019-09-18T17:52:48+00:00 Uncategorized|1 Comment

First Aid for WTF?! moments

Hello Friends, I thought I'd share a friendly public service announcement: First Aid for WTF?! moments Suspend disbelief: Yes, this really is happening right now. Accept it. Pause and take deep breaths: Stop holding your breath and avoid breathing shallowly as this can lead to hyperventilation or a panic attack. Breathe deeply and allow all the uncomfortable feelings to rise up and pass through you. Step away from whatever is happening if needed to avoid reacting from strong emotions - excuse yourself as politely as you can. Talk to someone you trust who will listen and be compassionate. Write a rant [...]

2019-09-04T15:42:44+00:00 Uncategorized|3 Comments

A friendly reminder: All IS WELL

Hello Friends, The energy recently feels heavy, a tad bit too somber and weary. I've noticed that many of us are releasing old, outdated behaviors, people, places, things and beliefs that no longer serve us. Change can feel chaotic and painful, even if we welcome it and know it's for the best. I'd simply like to offer some encouragement that this too shall pass and remind you to use all the tools in your arsenal to practice extreme self-care during difficult times. Don't forget to doubt the doubts, and use afformations and affirmations: What if I am always blessed and [...]

2019-08-21T13:32:12+00:00 Uncategorized|1 Comment

Blossom by trusting yourself

Hello Friends, How do we allow ourselves, and our lives, to blossom when we feel we have no idea what to do to make it better? I was inspired to the answer by one of my favorite songs, The Rose by Bette Midler (see below for lyrics and link), and Brené Brown, research professor and author extraordinaire. blossom 1 a : the flower of a seed plant; b : the state of bearing flowers 2 : a peak period or stage of development I find that we don't take risks to live authentically and follow our bliss because we fear [...]

2019-08-14T14:05:44+00:00 Uncategorized|1 Comment

Don’t let disappointment steal your peace and joy

Hello Friends, I find that we often spend too much time wallowing in disappointment, usually because we had strong feelings surrounding the person or situation. disappointed 1 : defeated in expectation or hope; 2 obsolete : not adequately equipped When things don't happen, or people don't behave, the way we want or expect we feel disappointed. Then we stew in that feeling and make up horrible stories about why this happened, we can't stop thinking and talking about it, we get into a funk and become crabby or sad, and this can go on and on for a long time. [...]

2019-08-07T16:26:49+00:00 Uncategorized|1 Comment
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