We are taught from a very young age to hide our true feelings – be nice, be polite, don’t cry, it’s not OK to show anger, etc. We walk around wearing masks all the time, afraid to be authentic, afraid of rejection or retaliation, afraid to be an outcast. It’s not that we’re out there lying, we’re simply hiding, or holding back, our true feelings and desires. Then we wonder why we’re not happy and not getting what we really want.
As I was contemplating this, I decided to try something different: to speak and live my truth all the time – GULP! I am happy to report that it feels liberating. It felt really awkward at first, especially with strangers. To my surprise, most people seem to appreciate my frankness and then feel comfortable enough to share something meaningful with me, which creates a really nice connection that doesn’t feel strained or fake.
Now, now, I am not advocating you go blab your whole life story to anyone and everyone, or go tell off that person who gets on your last nerve. Simply be honest in a respectful manner, speaking from who you really are and what you really feel – not attacking someone out of spite or anger. And, if you’re afraid the other person may not receive your truth well, then let things be and say a prayer for healing or send thoughts of love and support. Sometimes your truth is to be quiet and allow things to be what they are while you decide to do what’s best for you.
Mel’s Two Cents: I highly recommend just being yourself by speaking and living your truth. Say what you really mean and do what really makes you feel peace and joy. Simply be the ‘real’ you, not the ‘politically correct’ you or the ‘I’m doing this out of desperation’ you :)
Until next time.
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