I thought I’d share a friendly public service announcement: First Aid for WTF?! moments
- Suspend disbelief: Yes, this really is happening right now. Accept it.
- Pause and take deep breaths: Stop holding your breath and avoid breathing shallowly as this can lead to hyperventilation or a panic attack. Breathe deeply and allow all the uncomfortable feelings to rise up and pass through you. Step away from whatever is happening if needed to avoid reacting from strong emotions – excuse yourself as politely as you can.
- Talk to someone you trust who will listen and be compassionate. Write a rant about the situation to get it all out and discharge the strong emotions.
- Practice compassion and forgiveness with yourself and others. When anything disturbing happens we all play a part in it, and we’re all doing the best we can. Release shame, blame, guilt and unworthiness aka the need to control or manipulate people and circumstances so that you feel safe and comfortable. Everyone is an individual with varying degrees of experience, knowledge and self-awareness, which contribute to who they are and how they behave. Therefore, we cannot expect them to act the way we want or will make us feel good.
- Do something that will make you feel good and loved. Be kind to yourself. Take good care of yourself. Note: if you feel like being petty or vengeful then start back at #1.
- If a decision needs to be made, choose what feels best to you – what makes you feel the most free and alive – even if there’s uncertainty or it may disappoint others.
- Long term: If you notice a pattern or recognize a problem seek professional help from a coach, counselor, therapist or join a support group. Explore helpful resources such as books, workshops, videos, etc.
Mel’s Two Cents: I encourage you to view WTF?! moments as wake-up calls and lessons that show up in our lives to help us expand our awareness about ourselves and the world around us. It’s an opportunity to explore how we can become a better version of ourselves and live a more peaceful, joyful and fulfilling life. Oh, I know it’s not fun, but the lessons that stick are learned through actual experience. We humans love drama and thrills so we unwittingly attract WTF?! moments to help us learn, grow and become brave enough to be, do and have what we really want.
Until next time.
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