Do you know your worth and value? Are you waiting for someone else to determine or validate it for you? Well, let me tell you a little secret: you are worthy and valuable simply because you exist! You are one-of-a-kind! There is, and will only ever be, one you in this world. So why try to compare yourself to others or force yourself to be like others? Why not just be yourself as that is the only thing you can be? Listening to others tell you how you should be and what you should do only leads to misery. By now I think most of us are aware that people pleasing is not pretty and can be downright ugly and dysfunctional. Why do we care so much what others may say or think? The short answer is because that is how we’ve been taught to think and behave, and the good news is that we can change our minds about it. It’s not set in stone anywhere that you cannot change your mind, and you will not be struck down by lightning if you decide to be yourself and not worry so much about what others will say or think.
Mel’s Two Cents: Be authentically, unapologetically and unashamedly YOU! Now this does not mean you should forgo good manners – respect, kindness, compassion and forgiveness are must haves. Love what you love, do what you love to do – often, and be a blessing to all who cross your path. I hate that I have to clarify this last recommendation but… being a blessing can be as simple as smiling at a stranger, letting a snide comment slide because you know the person is having a bad day, or treating someone to a cup of coffee; it does NOT mean being a doormat.
Now go forth and be the best YOU you can be!
Until next time.
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